Wednesday, 20 July 2011

Our First Donor Update

Today I got the first update on how our donor is doing. According to the clinic she is doing well and we are all on track. She will have another scan on Friday so we will get another update then. I have a scan on Friday as well so hopefully both updates will be good ones.

Once I finished reading the email I was hit with this overwhelming wave of emotion. I've been doing my best to compartmentalize what we're doing.

I've been taking things in small steps.
  1. First I inject with lupron. 
  2. Then I have a scan. 
  3. Scan is good. 
  4. I start injecting with del estrogen. 
  5. I have my next scan.
Thinking about the task at hand. Avoiding thinking about the big picture. But today it all hit me. This is getting very real.

The hubby is trying to remind me that we need to take it step by step. We are sharing our donor and so there is always a chance that the cycle could be cancelled if there aren't enough eggs to go around. He is doing his best to keep me calm and not get ahead of myself.

But I can't help it. Blame it on the hormones rushing through my body, or blame it on optimism,,, but I'm starting to think that this cycle will go ahead as planned. And it's all a bit overwhelming.

It's also amazing to think that there is a woman who lives in a different country than I do. A woman who has never met me. A woman who is willing to inject herself with hormones, and do scans, and have an egg retrieval. A woman who is doing all of this so that a stranger can have a baby.

There is a woman who went in for a scan today in order to donate her eggs to me. I know I will never meet her, but to me she is an angel. What an amazing gift that she is willing to offer.

All for a stranger.

That's all for now. I will post more as it happens.


  1. Very sweet post. Made me tear up and think of our donor. You're right, they are angels. She can never know just how much I appreciate her for the two babies growing in my belly today. Best of luck to you and yes, one step at a time!!!

  2. Very sweet, and wonderful that you are getting so close! Continue taking it step by step, will be thinking of you.

  3. That woman and all the other women out there who donate eggs really are angels. It's such an amazing thing to do for a stranger.

  4. I think we all love her for you :)

  5. It is an amazing gift. :) I wish you the best of luck for this cycle.

  6. Thank you so much for your kind words.
    They were perfect.
    I am with you in spirit.

  7. Step by step.. wishing you the best...

  8. Sorry that I've been so long in commenting.... and so glad to hear that you're under-way and heading towards the big day :)) Love to you always xoxo

  9. Hoping all goes well for you, I don't think I've ever given the subject of egg donation much thought, but you've made me think of it in a much more human context, if that makes any sense?x

  10. Thought about my donor nightanddaydayandnight during that phase. I like to think she benefits from all the positive thoughts you send her way.

  11. Here from ICLW. I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. I will be sending good thoughts both in your donor's and your direction for a smooth path to a healthy baby. It's wonderful that there are people out there who are willing to take the steps to help others out. Hopefully, the legacy of her act will live on for a very long time.

  12. <3 <3 <3 I hope, with all my heart that this is it for you. <3

  13. I hope it all goes well for you!

  14. An amazing gift no doubt! Good luck with it all!

  15. Hello, I found your blog through a message you left with Jeanette @ Lazy Seamstress and I wanted to say good luck with your parenting journey. I have 'lost' 2 pregnancies since November last year, they were early days, so that's why I say pregnancy and not babies, but I still feel the huge hurt of it. Anyway, I wanted to say that my sister was an egg donor for her husbands sister. It all worked well on the first try and the couple have a lovely little boy. I think it helps if you hear positive stories don't you? I hope you are both blessed with your hearts desire very soon.

  16. I don't know anyone who's received a donor's egg but I've often seen the advertisements in the paper and wondered about the people behind them... What a precious gift it will be for you. Wishing you all the best.