A few days I posted this about an exchange with my sister that really upset me. After our conversation I think she sensed something was wrong and sent me an email asking if I was mad at her.
Now normally I would respond that everything was fine because I don't like confrontation. But this time I was so upset that I felt she needed to know about it. With nervous anticipation I sent her a reply telling her how selfish I thought she had been. As is typical, she overreacted and got very dramatic. After a few very wordy email exchanges I think she finally gets my point. Not that she has accepted acting selfishly (that would be a miracle) but she acknowledges that what she did hurt me and she has apologized for that.
As someone who normally runs away from any type of conflict this was a big step for me. Maybe peace at any cost really isn't the best motto. Maybe I need to grow some balls and speak up more often, it sure felt great!
I have had a similar situation happen with my sister, I've always been the one to just take crap from people, avoid confrontation and not start an argument, but recently I just had enough of it, and this situation just made me snap a little at her and, really had it out! She's always been one to expect things handed to her on a plate and I was sick of it!
ReplyDeleteIts feels great to speak up sometimes and not be walked over!
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Oh good for you. I really don't think it's good to hold things in (I am guilty of this too). It's much healthier to let things out.
ReplyDeleteGood for you My New Normal! I hope this was the beginning of a whole new you? I reckon having the argument brings it to the head and resolves it quicker than if you stew. But that is just me :-) Thanks for Rewinding x
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