My wife has asked me many times over the last year+ if I wanted to "guest post". I always said NO, this was her space. I still believe it is, and I am pretty sure this will be my one and only post. After this I will go back to being a fan........
June 8th, 2012 was the happiest day of my life. At 8:49am when I heard that wonderful sound.....the sound of my baby girl........our Frostina crying as she entered this world. I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT MOMENT! In a instant, overwhelming joy..and yes RELIEF swept through my body. SHE MADE IT!
In order to get to this moment, I want to express my thoughts about 3 "people".
The 1st is someone I will never know. There are many people like her...........women who for some reason have chosen to give a gift. A gift that can never be repaid. Why these women choose to do this, what inspires them, what motivates them, I will never understand. But for the lady who donated her eggs....so that my wife and I could be parents........to make Frostina a possibility....THANK YOU. I hope somehow you "know"......I am forever GRATEFUL!
The 2nd "person" I want to recognise is......YOU. Yes you. the loyal followers to my wife's blog. When she started this, it was her way to go somewhere private, to write what she was feeling........no one to judge her. No family, no friends....and yes at first no hubby. Just her "place".
What this blog has turned into, truly amazes me. The community of support. Women with similar stories and loss and struggle. Whether you know it or not, you have been something for her no one else could be. But without you, I'm not sure if she could have made this journey. You have motivated, inspired and supported my wife so wonderfully from her 1st blog about losing our son, through some funny moments ( top 10 infertility list) to the joy of Frostina's arrival. THANK YOU!
The 3rd..of course is my wife. I know you say you do not feel like it at times. But you are truly the strongest person I know. If not for your strength, determination and most of all your LOVE...........Frostina would not be here today. I could write a book on everything you have put yourself through.........all the doctors appointments, all the flights, all the shots, all the medications.
NO ONE deserves to be called MOMMY more than you. The joy and smile on your face holding our daughter...........is so special......is truly beautiful.
We will never forgot our son...........he lives in our hearts everyday. I know he would be such a great big brother to Frostina...........
I Love you with all my heart...........
Frostina's Daddy
Dealing with the loss of a child is never easy, but it's even more difficult when you are an expat living far from home. Life will never be "normal" again and so now the challenge is to find my new normal. I am now back in the USA and the proud parent of two daughters, born using two different egg donors. "Frostina" and "Olea" are the loves of my life and I feel so grateful for the amazing women who donated their eggs and made my family possible.
What a beautiful guest post x
ReplyDeleteLovely, lovely post. We'll be here supporting.
ReplyDeleteSimply beautiful! It brought tears to my eyes. A Daddy whom has lost a child is a special man. He is a stronger, more gentle and self aware man that honours his family with compassion and kindness. We Mama's are loss are lucky to have the men in our lives and this post is a tribute to just that. I am so glad you have your little girl safely in your arms, and I wish you many joyful days ahead.
ReplyDeleteHello and congratulations to you. So wonderful to hear your voice. To know you are there supporting your wife but also you being supported by us. I am so glad you have a healthy alive baby and so wish you could have both your son and daughter. Sending hugs to the three of you as you navigate this new adventure.
ReplyDeleteSo wonderful, I loved this.
ReplyDeleteI love hearing from the dads out there! I wish there was more of it.
ReplyDeleteLoved your post, simply beautiful.
Congratulations.
xo
It's always nice to hear a dad's point of view. You both deserve an enormous amount of happiness and I'm sure Frostina will give it to you. She's lucky to have you both as her parents.
ReplyDeleteWonderful post and I wish you both many many happy parenting years to come!
ReplyDeleteSuch a great post! Wishing you all the best ♥
ReplyDeleteCongratulations hubby- you deserve frosting and all the happiness fatherhood brings x
ReplyDelete* frostina*
ReplyDeleteLots of love to your whole family!
ReplyDeleteWelcome hubby and congratulations!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Daddy. You have a wonderful, wonderful family. Much love to you all. Thank you for such a beautiful post. Frostina's Momma gives so much with her posts. She is a great caregiver to all of us.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! So happy for you guys! It's wonderful to see the joy that is evident for you both since Frostina's arrival. She is one incredibly lucky baby girl. Lots of love to your beautiful family!
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet post. So happy for your family!
ReplyDeleteWonderful post - thanks for sharing your heart with us. Have you thought of your own blog....?
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