You guys are awesome!
I just wrote about not wanting to have a baby shower because it would be a flashback minefield for me. I was pondering doing something after (here's me being hopeful again) the baby is born. I asked for suggestions about what to do and how to avoid calling it a baby shower.
I got some great responses from that post and I learned a thing or two as well. I knew that British women don't really do baby showers (although the idea is growing in popularity), but I didn't realize it was considered bad luck. I also didn't realize that many Jewish people won't do a shower before the baby is born. Although having been to many a baby shower for my Jewish friends I'm guessing this rule is flexible.
I absolutely love this idea! It seems like a perfect way to celebrate a new baby without all the painful memories of baby showers past. So thanks to all of you who commented and suggested such a great idea. I will be passing this idea on to my friends who want to throw me a shower.
I'm doing a variation of this! We're planning on calling it a "Meet the Babies Party" when we return home from India. I completely understand how you're feeling:)
ReplyDeleteLove this idea!
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad the Sip 'n' See idea came up in your comments. As I mentioned before, I lost my babies a couple of months before my scheduled shower, but the thought of having one with a rainbow baby makes me want to puke. I told my DH about your last post and he seemed interested in the idea, too...plus, then it wouldn't be weird to have a co-ed one (things here tend to be women-only). :D
ReplyDeleteGlad the comments helped and you were able to find something you're comfortable with.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea, this sip n see open house gathering. I love it! I must admit that baby showers give me the willies. I don't attend them and don't want one if I ever become pregnant or anticipate an adoption to come through. I can see that for you, a baby shower would be like spending a few hours in hell. You don't need that at all. Right now, you are gestating a baby. When the baby arrives, you can focus on celebrating his or her arrival.
ReplyDeleteYay! I got some new ideas from the discussion, too, so thank you for starting it. By the way, did you read the comments on that sip 'n see site? There are some funny ones (like a woman who has a sip 'n see to show off/get opinions about new boyfriends).
ReplyDeleteI've never liked showers either. Mine was actually my birthday party, where I got gifts for me, and gifts for the babies. But it was really just my birthday party. I love the sip n see idea :)
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy you found something that takes that anxiety off your shoulders! You're carrying so much emotional weight right now, a baby shower shouldn't be one of those things.
ReplyDeleteI knew someone who did a sip and see after losing one of her twins unexpectedly. Whatever is comfortable for you is what's best. I debated for a while also with my current pregnancy b/c I never had one for my daughter I lost. I went ahead and decided to do a baby shower.
ReplyDeleteI'm your newest follower, so didn't see the recent post, so I will definitely have to check it out - but sip & sit - never heard of it either, but I absolutely adore the idea of it. You learn something new everyday :) I love your blog page and the layout is amazing :) Please, follow me back at the happily ever after project
ReplyDeleteImma send you a case of hand sanitizer.
ReplyDeleteI had never heard of that either. Sounds like such a great idea:)
ReplyDeleteSounds like a wonderful idea :) xo
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