Ever since we made the decision to try for another baby things have been very slowly moving forward. Things always take longer than we think they will for various reasons but we finally got all the preliminary steps out of the way and were granted access to chose donor 2.0.
Choosing an egg donor is tricky business. Back in 2011 when we were choosing Frostina's donor I wrote about my struggles here and here. I just went back and re-read both posts and have to say that it was pretty much the same this time around.
Sure we knew how to do it and yes it wasn't nearly as overwhelming this time around. But this time around there was a third point to consider. Did we want to pick a donor that looked like Frostina? After all, if this whole thing works then this person will be Frostina's sibling. So considering we couldn't use the donor we did for her, should we try and find a donor who looks similar?
I know, I know, looks aren't everything. And of course we looked for a proven donor with a good medical history. But what I have learned is that looks do matter a bit. I don't mean attractive or not attractive, I mean looking like Mommy or Daddy.
People are obsessed with looks when it comes to babies. They examine every nook and cranny of your little one trying to determine who he or she looks like. If I had a pound for every time I hear how Frostina looks nothing like me I'd be a very rich woman. So this time around we did take this into consideration.
In the end I think we found a donor who ticked all the boxes. So now we pay the clinic and get this party started!
Dealing with the loss of a child is never easy, but it's even more difficult when you are an expat living far from home. Life will never be "normal" again and so now the challenge is to find my new normal. I am now back in the USA and the proud parent of two daughters, born using two different egg donors. "Frostina" and "Olea" are the loves of my life and I feel so grateful for the amazing women who donated their eggs and made my family possible.
Congrats on picking a donor! Speaking from experience, I know she'll be excited, too. :-) Hoping and praying for you!
ReplyDeleteSuch a big step! Wishing you love and luck on this next stage.
ReplyDeleteI am so excited that you guys have taken this next step. I completelt understand what you are saying in regards to wanting Frostina and her sibling to look similar. For what it's worth I am nothing like my children looks wise. So not even biological children always reflect both parents.
ReplyDeleteexciting! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGreat stuff! Good luck for this next cycle.
ReplyDeleteSO very exciting. Congratulations on taking the next step!
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ReplyDeleteCongrats on picking a new donor! Very exciting. best of luck on the upcoming cycle.
ReplyDeleteI'm so excited to heard this news! Wishing for all the best on the next steps.
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