Yesterday at sunset, my husband and I scattered the ashes of our son. It was one of the most painful and beautiful things I've ever had to do. We chose Lake Tahoe as the place to to it because it's one of the most beautiful places in the world and also because I've been coming to Tahoe since I was a kid and have many happy memories here.
It was a simple and beautiful event. We went out to the end of a small pier on the beach where we are staying. We brought out a candle that we bought especially for this day and also a bottle of champagne. We popped the cork and toasted our son. Then we sat while the sun went down and cried and hugged each other. We didn't say much, I think it was better that way. Once the sun went down we scattered his ashes over the water and watched as they drifted away.
Today I am feeling lighter. I am so happy that we chose this place and this time to honor the memory of our angel baby.
Dealing with the loss of a child is never easy, but it's even more difficult when you are an expat living far from home. Life will never be "normal" again and so now the challenge is to find my new normal. I am now back in the USA and the proud parent of two daughters, born using two different egg donors. "Frostina" and "Olea" are the loves of my life and I feel so grateful for the amazing women who donated their eggs and made my family possible.
So difficult to know what to say. A simple and beautiful ceremony told in a simple and beautiful way. I love that image.
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Blinking away tears here. Beautiful and so wonderfully shared.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing what was obviously an intensely personal moment.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful memory...
ReplyDeleteSuch a moving post and a beautiful tribute.
ReplyDeleteYou did good by that angel baby. You have a mommy's heart. I pray your arms will be full someday.
ReplyDeleteOh that is just so beautiful. x
ReplyDeleteI remember this post. Still hauntingly sad.
ReplyDeleteThanks for Rewinding at the Fibro.