I am starting to make friends here in my new hometown.
Friends who didn't know me before my loss.
Friends who meet me and see a Mother of two little girls.
Friends who don't know about my struggles with infertility.
Friends who want to spend time with me even after they know my story.
I know it will be a long time before I have the kind of network I had back in London, but it feels good to run into a familiar face every now and again.
It makes me feel a bit less lonely.
Dealing with the loss of a child is never easy, but it's even more difficult when you are an expat living far from home. Life will never be "normal" again and so now the challenge is to find my new normal. I am now back in the USA and the proud parent of two daughters, born using two different egg donors. "Frostina" and "Olea" are the loves of my life and I feel so grateful for the amazing women who donated their eggs and made my family possible.
Hey with two lovely girls there's no 'lonely'. Cheers to new friendships.
ReplyDeleteHaving a community is important. Congrats on finding new friends. It's not always easy to do.
ReplyDeleteThat's great that you're making friends! I know so many moms who find that hard to do in a new place.
ReplyDeletegreat! how do you feel about telling your story? I often don't...
ReplyDeleteMaking new friends is so tricky as an adult. Glad to read you are making some steps forward!
ReplyDeleteThat is really impressive, and a whole lot of work. Making friends can be really tough in a new town. I hope that you make a lot of connections, and that people treat you well.
ReplyDeleteI have moved overseas a few times, and I always find it strange to have a community of people who don't know some of the most important things about me. Glad you are finding some people to know. It's so hard to make friends as an adult, but so important to have that support.
ReplyDeleteGlad you're finding routine. New ones are both comforting and strange at the same time.
ReplyDeleteit is totally hard to make new friends later in life, especially in a new place.. having kids definitely makes it easier, as i have found myself. these friendships are different from my old ones, but they are a blessing nonetheless. happy new friendships and connections :)
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear you are starting to make friends in your new home town. I think we never really know what's really going on with other people, their struggles and losses unless you are really good friends with people, but good friends like that are hard to come by. At the start it's mainly small talk etc! Hope you make some good friends soon who you can share things with and who are supportive. Wishing you all the best.
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