tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post4629203505123366633..comments2024-02-24T09:40:19.257+00:00Comments on Finding My New Normal: The Pregnancy **After** The Pregnancy After LossMy New Normalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-17718358599724855322014-01-31T23:13:15.166+00:002014-01-31T23:13:15.166+00:00I'm here as well. Pregnant after raibow baby. ...I'm here as well. Pregnant after raibow baby. Reading your post I just realised I had written nothing about my not so new pregnancy... I'm feeling very different this time around, not naive, not desperate, something closer to acceptance. Acceptance that very little depends on me regarding the outcome and this gives me something close to peace... I'm expecting a boy however... All the best of luck to you!Fedehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00669662716903791221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-22654940596794312112014-01-29T15:14:05.343+00:002014-01-29T15:14:05.343+00:00Sending you prayers that this is another successfu...Sending you prayers that this is another successful pregnancy. xo Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-21850419648479725642014-01-28T06:00:47.082+00:002014-01-28T06:00:47.082+00:00I hope this is another successful pregnancy for yo...I hope this is another successful pregnancy for you. I'm 12 weeks (after 1 miscarriage, 3 failed adoptions, 5 more miscarriages, and then 1 amazing living 22-month-old daughter), and I feel much the same way you do. I'm a little bit less high strung this time around and a little bit more optimistic but still terrified and still not sure I'd let the crib be set up before Kiddo is born. I'm still very aware that just because everything is fine at this moment, it doesn't mean everything is still going to be fine in the next moment, and I don't talk about the pregnancy very much. I'm going to a large party on Friday and there will be a lot of people there who would be thrilled to hear the news, but I'm not ready to talk about it yet. Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09564075022074996137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-48175315929887633852014-01-27T04:16:50.779+00:002014-01-27T04:16:50.779+00:00Saw a link to your blog on Melissa's blog. I r...Saw a link to your blog on Melissa's blog. I recently had my second rainbow and experienced many of the emotions you described. The fear was there but the hope was much more tangible. I wrote about it here<br />http://happilyhidalgo.blogspot.com/2013/10/pregnancy-after-loss-revisited.html<br />Best of luck to you as you navigate this new, but familiar, path. Hoping it ends with the happiest of outcomes Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101380791416834049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-39592286297185432442014-01-26T04:20:51.058+00:002014-01-26T04:20:51.058+00:00Thanks for sharing. I lost my firstborns a few mon...Thanks for sharing. I lost my firstborns a few months ago and am hoping for that first pregnancy after, but somewhere in the back of my mind I'm still hoping for a big family and thus multiple successful pregnancies... <br /><br />I like the Double Rainbow idea, like when you see a smaller rainbow inside a larger one. But maybe then each baby is one Rainbow, and together they make it double? No matter the name, I hope the journey to your second rainbow goes smoothly. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-81682470456673195012014-01-26T01:40:41.660+00:002014-01-26T01:40:41.660+00:00I'm nearing the end of my second post-lost pre...I'm nearing the end of my second post-lost pregnancy. This baby will (hopefully) be arriving in the next four weeks or so. <br /><br />I can say this pregnancy was easier in so many ways that my rainbow pregnancy was not. For example, I am so distracted by Grace that I don't have the time to focus on my loss of Jack. that's a blessing, for sure. I still worry like crazy, knowing I'm not immune to loss once again. I know both sides of this coin too, and I prefer the shiny happy side. It's just hard not to worry about the "what ifs" and be anxious about them. The shiny side's a little tarnished, ya know? :/ <br /><br />Hoping this pregnancy is smooth sailing. Lj82https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067562341189588336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-80606949452328487752014-01-25T03:47:13.016+00:002014-01-25T03:47:13.016+00:00I was just thinking about all of this. I had a los...I was just thinking about all of this. I had a loss, then a rainbow baby. And I was considering how I would feel if I was pregnant again. Would I be just as nervous the third time around? Would I be as diligent of monitoring and extra progesterone shots? Would I be more relaxed and confident? I think I would feel just as you do, where I would still be wary, but know I have one take-home baby in my history. This would be easier, but still a challenge.<br />MissConceptionADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-57285049463243956102014-01-24T20:24:04.249+00:002014-01-24T20:24:04.249+00:00We only have one rainbow, so I can't comment o...We only have one rainbow, so I can't comment on what I'll be like during the pregnancy, but I hope I'll be able to feel more joy than I did with Gus' pregnancy.<br /><br />The term I like is double rainbow.Briannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04066881815556809319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-69889550481597631392014-01-24T20:19:11.369+00:002014-01-24T20:19:11.369+00:00I, too, was able to look. I even bought the second...I, too, was able to look. I even bought the second stroller seat... but not until later. And it remained in the box. In fact, I took it out yesterday. Still nervous. <br /><br />I look forward to reading about your journey of a second rainbow. Hoping it all goes smoothly, of course. Hoping, hoping, hoping.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-54834005356837474932014-01-24T20:18:24.195+00:002014-01-24T20:18:24.195+00:00We lost our first child at 16 weeks. We found out...We lost our first child at 16 weeks. We found out we were pregnant just 3 months later which meant the new baby was due just 2 weeks after we lost the first.<br />I can't say we weren't excited or happy to be pregnant again because as unplanned as it was we were thrilled. But to say it was a joyful pregnancy would be a complete lie. Every new feeling, slight discomfort even cough had us both in panic mode. This was the early 90's and not a subject most people talked about. We were fortunate to have found a support group called Empty Arms but even that was very limited. Our families didn't know how to talk to us. It seemed everyone around us was pregnant and so happy ~ we just couldn't get there. <br />I was as sick during this pregnancy as I was with the first which had me out on disability (I worked for an incredible company w/incredible benefits). <br />Terms like Rainbow Baby and even the idea of telling your children about your earlier losses just weren't the culture. To this day my Em has no idea there was supposed to be a baby before her. How would I tell her as the reality is had we not lost that baby she could/would never have existedLady Brenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14288789884463390331noreply@blogger.com