tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post2904144685488685421..comments2024-02-24T09:40:19.257+00:00Comments on Finding My New Normal: 7 Ways Grief Has Changed MeMy New Normalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-71834394900685320022011-10-17T11:07:58.361+01:002011-10-17T11:07:58.361+01:00I feel like I am gaining this perspective through ...I feel like I am gaining this perspective through reading your blog, without having to endure the loss of a child. Thanks for that! Thanks for Rewinding xMultipleMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621170366257326241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-26607917332132233832011-07-05T20:16:42.837+01:002011-07-05T20:16:42.837+01:00What amazing post! I love how you shared the posit...What amazing post! I love how you shared the positivies and negatives.<br /><br />Stopping from Time Travel Tuesday.JDaniel4's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10354900916937838719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-83650673564593363662011-07-05T14:54:34.229+01:002011-07-05T14:54:34.229+01:00Such a touching post that will certainly help othe...Such a touching post that will certainly help others. Thanks for sharing this!<br />Stopping by and following, liking, tweeting, stumbling, and digging on Time Travel Tuesday!<br />http://practicalfrugality.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-book-reviews-are-important.htmlKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18298597446369187227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-45288444210666829132011-07-05T12:49:21.786+01:002011-07-05T12:49:21.786+01:00You made me stop and think with some of these - be...You made me stop and think with some of these - being appreciative for what we have, <br />letting our husband's know they are our lives,<br />having compassion ... <br />being vulnerable teaches us empathy.<br />It is a wonderful post, I love the insight.<br />And you sound strong here, taking charge of the good stuff too ;)<br /><br /><br />Thanks for linking up to Time Travel Tuesday today, it really means a lot to have your support ... and having a chance to read posts that have been and gone is like curling up with a favorite magazine!<br />Have a wonderful day!<br />http://www.bywordofmouthmusings.com/2011/07/time-travel-tuesday.htmlThe Sisters' Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08797948652615263591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-14624489449185312042011-01-31T20:44:23.584+00:002011-01-31T20:44:23.584+00:00Thank you everyone for your kind words. I am still...Thank you everyone for your kind words. I am still changing everyday and I can only hope that I like who I am becoming.My New Normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03482513767849843084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-65202100727909923252011-01-31T20:20:47.230+00:002011-01-31T20:20:47.230+00:00I'm so sorry you've lost your son...and kn...I'm so sorry you've lost your son...and knowing what he would be like as well as all the dreams you had for him.<br /><br />My daughter died at the age of 4, and your list is very similar to mine.....I think grief wakes you up to how fragile life really is, it also lives inside and doesn't ever disappear.<br /><br />I write a blog on my loss and learning to appreciate what I have now...it's been healing to write about losing my mum, daughter and sister.<br /><br />sending love to you<br />Diana xDiana Doylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959587005117395783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-35460196975455790642011-01-28T23:06:15.408+00:002011-01-28T23:06:15.408+00:00You could have written this list for me.You could have written this list for me.Loumaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324396055973731510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-69878322915974650732011-01-28T17:33:05.583+00:002011-01-28T17:33:05.583+00:00Great little list. And I agree with each one. Look...Great little list. And I agree with each one. Looking back over those years in my life, I could have written each one.<br />And an additional one... people can say some crazy things! Do you experience this, as well??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-37475766498548498962011-01-28T15:59:30.626+00:002011-01-28T15:59:30.626+00:00This
"I now know that you never really get o...This<br /> "I now know that you never really get over tragedy, you just get better at living with it."<br />is so incredibly true.<br /><br />I'm so sorry for your loss :(aimeemaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18067879883565849424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-52738794805138813622011-01-28T11:55:44.630+00:002011-01-28T11:55:44.630+00:00If only we could have this kind of perspective wit...If only we could have this kind of perspective without the suffering you have endured. As I said in your 'Grateful' post just now, your son seemed to have a true purpose and he has done his job so beautifully. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-16503768365740915062011-01-28T04:33:19.755+00:002011-01-28T04:33:19.755+00:00What very parallel list to what I imagine I would ...What very parallel list to what I imagine I would say to the same question... Thank you for sharing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-44667541872085454902011-01-27T04:04:11.145+00:002011-01-27T04:04:11.145+00:00A friend of mine who miscarried had this posted on...A friend of mine who miscarried had this posted on her Facebook today, "This week we remember all babies born sleeping or whom we have carried but never met, or those we have held but could not take home or the ones that came home but didn't stay." I thought it was really well said and wanted to share it with you. And I thought it was nice that there was a time, even if on Facebook, that people might remember ...Hockey Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02288216293484190139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-35397038309442341402011-01-27T03:53:36.710+00:002011-01-27T03:53:36.710+00:00What a beautiful post and so much of it echos in m...What a beautiful post and so much of it echos in myself.<br /><br />I have found there is no sugar coating anything anymore and shit does happen, which you'd think that would put a layer of protection around us? No, the vulnerability was such a shock to me and am continually surprised by others lack of compassion and empathy... But I guess that just shows us how much we have and to offer to others.<br /><br />Thank you for this thought provoking postTesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02470961769758348411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-33635147676549053142011-01-26T22:42:50.852+00:002011-01-26T22:42:50.852+00:00I could have written so much of that post to descr...I could have written so much of that post to describe me too - I find it uncanny how many things we have in common. <br /><br />One thing I will share, a psychologist told me during an infant loss support group that the forgetfulness and brain fog gets better after about 18 months. Seriously, 18 months. I guess in the interim, we'd better make good lists? <br /><br />And about whether you like the new you or not? I wonder the same thing about myself and decided it is up to me to make sure I become someone I like - I might not like all of the facets that came along with grief, but somehow I have to turn it into something that I can live with for a long time, otherwise I will hate myself. I've decided while it has and will change my life, I am trying not to let it define my life. Easier said than done for sure. <br /><br />Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-15312064535285887492011-01-26T20:03:27.570+00:002011-01-26T20:03:27.570+00:00Like Sarah, I still don't do number one, but a...Like Sarah, I still don't do number one, but all the rest you named are changes I have seen in myself since my son was diagnosed with autism. Not in anyway similar in magnitude to your loss, but a big change in our lives.<br /><br />I think you will like her, I certainly do. Some days you may hate the new you and you know that is ok, that is part of the process of grieving too.<br /><br />Big hugs. JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04057803269417950110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-64540786127582295072011-01-26T19:50:44.429+00:002011-01-26T19:50:44.429+00:00Thanks for sharing your list - I could relate to s...Thanks for sharing your list - I could relate to so much of it. Sometimes I think it's amazing how much I've changed since losing my baby, but I sometimes also realize I became a parent (just never as I had planned) and I know everyone says becoming a parent changes your life forever. Unfortunately I think because I don't have a living child to show for my change, people often forget and assume I'm back to my same 'ol self before Acacia. It's an interesting, difficult and rewarding journey of self-discovery.Big Love, Big Acceptance - or so I sayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03647121831668711451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-30478885171693139662011-01-26T18:27:00.187+00:002011-01-26T18:27:00.187+00:00With the exception of #1 (I've always loved sa...With the exception of #1 (I've always loved sad movies, books, etc. and have, sometimes to my detriment, never been able to have rose colored glasses) I can honestly say that every single one of these things applies to me now as well. Some are clearly changes for the better, some are taking a little more time to adjust to and get comfortable with.sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6831856940051820911.post-28731506164544535392011-01-26T16:31:34.088+00:002011-01-26T16:31:34.088+00:00This is an honest list that takes a lot of courage...This is an honest list that takes a lot of courage in putting out. In time you will grow into someone that you know and love. But for now, it is okay to see the differences. I am an avid reader of you and think you are an incredible woman.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02765043671178021388noreply@blogger.com